Have you ever found your Sunday winding down and thought to yourself (even verbalized with a grunt or a groan, maybe both)… “tomorrow’s Monday, it’s already time to go back to work?” Yeah, me too. Occasionally I struggle with the concept of a two day weekend and a five day work week.
Work can be discouraging and often times challenging. To be completely honest, enjoying work has been somewhat of a struggle lately. Have you ever felt this way? Dealing with the many different personalities at work has gotten easier over the last few months. But, finding my place in my current position has been the most taxing. So, what’s a girl to do?
Well, here’s what I have done thus far… I attend the leadership classes offered by the company I work for. I’ve learned about how to deal with difficult personalities, a workplace filled with different generations, stress management, finding your management voice, reading body language and becoming a good listener. Now, I have yet to perfect these aspects of leadership but every day I strive to become a better leader in my life.
I have also found a spectacular leadership mentor! She is AMAZING! She asks the difficult questions I have failed to ask myself. She gives me literature that challenges me. (Have I mentioned that I love learning?) She gives guidance and advice when I need it the most. She’s honest and open. I highly recommend finding a mentor. Your mentor should be:
- someone you look up to and admire
- someone who inspires you
- someone you trust
- someone who is a positive influence
- someone who will challenge, encourage and support you
- someone who can help guide you to be a better YOU
If you have a person like this in your life and you want them to be your mentor, ask them. They may be confused at first, but explain why you’re asking them to take on this role. Understand up front that the person you ask has a right to respectfully decline the role of mentor. Being a mentor is no small task.
Are leadership classes and securing a mentor going to be enough to change the Monday blues or your outlook on work? No, not at all. Just like with any other change you make in your life, it has to be your decision and you have to stick with it. You have to work at it. How much work is enough? That really depends on you. I have to make a conscious effort every day.
If you are struggling with the same or a similar situation here’s what we’re going to do: BE POSITIVE!
“How are we going to do that?”
I’m glad you asked!
First, let me remind you (as I am often reminded by my loving mother), happiness comes from within. Be happy with who you are & where you are. I know when you’re going through trying times finding happiness within can be difficult. Let’s work on changing our mindset… WE CAN DO IT!
Here’s a couple of things we are going to do this week:
- Wake up every morning and say “Thank God I get to go to work today!” (Big thank you to my mentor for the awesome suggestion!) If you have a job you get to go to every day, be grateful. There are a lot of people that do not have this opportunity.
- Every day this week we are going to write down three positive things about whatever you are struggling with. I am going to focus on work and my workplace.
- We are going to smile! Smile at the client in the hallway, the patient in the elevator, that coworkers we struggle with… smile at every one!
- Detour negative thoughts. Anytime we feel a negative thought creeping in we are going to say “NO! Not today!” Replace the negative thought creeping in with a positive one. This positive thought can be anything. Here’s a couple of ideas: a compliment for yourself, admiration for God’s beautiful creations, how hot your spouse is ;), counting your blessings.
- Treat yourself and HAVE FUN! Go to the gym. Eat the ice cream. Splurge on yourself.
Every day is an opportunity to learn something new. Be a blessing to someone. Stay positive. Be the reason someone smiles. Remember that you are unique, special, important, worthy and beautiful! Monday is a chance to set a new tone for the rest of the week. Let’s start our week off right! Have a blessed Monday!